Another morning spent on the phone!

How many phone calls does it take to decide if we don't need the aides/therapy anymore??????????? Still waiting for 2 more phone calls back.

Another day spent doing things for parents-

Bought a wheelchair on ebay! I just have my fingers crossed that there is nothing drastically wrong with it. If it was up to the others, it would never have been bought - never mind as cheap as I got it. (lets hope not too cheap!) Then the drama with the amount of money spent on the woman who does their errands, dr appointments, etc. Now I still need to figure out how they can be spending almost $100 a week on dry cleaning! I mean they don't even go anyplace. So between food, dry cleaning and the fees for that and dr appts, it cost between $1-2K per month. Is that possible????

Well, those two items meant tons of phone calls and emails. Including the physical therapist in Fl to make sure the wheelchair was not too small. Then OH would not get off his butt and clean up the mess in the pool after 4 days away so I had to do it plus the laundry (not completely done yet).

Throw in grocery shopping and cooking and I did not get to go ride my horse which I really wanted to do. Tomorrow I will go first thing.

somebody kick me

the next time I say I'm going on "vacation" !!!!!

boring

Nothing much going on. At least I could be doing stuff but I'm not. Taking trip to Maryland to see MIL tomorrow - that will be fairly boring but sort of comfortable. It will be nice for the 4 brothers to get together and the long lost niece will be there and it will be the first time I've met her. MIL is very nice but also super de duper boring. No one else can get a word in. Thank goodness we will be staying at a hotel. I wish I could go away somewhere far far away to a beach preferably.

Brennan born today by C-section - 9 pounds 3 ounces!! Very exciting!!



Had long rambling conversation with aide today and I never actually figured out what in the world she was trying to tell me. I have pushed the whole problem off on risis since I am leaving tomorrow. Never mind that the whole thing has to be done by phone but I just don't feel like doing it.

At least I got to watch Wiz eat grass for an hour or so - very relaxing- it was a stunningly beautiful day.

dreary thoughts

Very very depressed about my parents. I woke up at 4:30 this morning thinking about them. The only time I can stop thinking about them is when I am at the barn messing around with W.

They are in a good place with really fine people caring for them but it is not the same as one of us sisters being near them. They did choose to live there and insisted on it, but what a way to end your life, having total strangers take care of you. Daddy would like to be near lasis and ma would like to be with risis, but I seem to be the one who has the time to go there in a crisis. Hmmm. I just re-read that last sentence. The last word is just too funny. I should go back to bed but I have already had too much coffee.

How is it possible to spend half a day on the phone? Between risis and dealing with parents affairs I can hardly get anything else done. I am still not done. I have to fax my power of attorney to the insurance company and get them to cancel the unsolicited credit card and checks they sent my parents and also increase their car insurance liability to cover the new aide who will be driving them to therapy.

My neighbor brought over her kids' ant farm - cute!! I should have added the ones I found on my kitchen counter this morning.

I liked watching my RI riding a new horse yesterday. His owner has offered to let OH ride him but he is being stubborn. It would be so much fun!

3 weeks??

I ended up spending 3 weeks in Florida. I went a week early because my father had a stroke. Thank God for the aide who called 911 when he got up in the morning and his speach was off by a mile. Sit in the hospital, then sit in the rehab hospital. I went to the rehab twice a day - so 2 hours on the road and many hours of sitting around just to be there since he was fairly disoriented for most of the time. Then lasis came for a week and took over the rehab duty except for one night when I made her stay home and go to bed early. Somehow over the week, she got completely irritated with me and I could not do anything right in her eyes. This made me sad but I could kind of understand it. She thinks that with the right therapy, my mother can be back to normal but you cannot turn back the years and make her the same as she was. More annoying was risis who shouold have come in my place for the last week I was there but had lame lame lame excuses and now is breezing in for 4 1/2 days. And I had to talk to her on the phone the last night I was there for 45 minutes to tell her what to do. Who told me??? And no, she cannot take them out to eat at their favorite restaurant! Daddy is on a strict diet (mostly pureed foods and pudding thick everything and is still not swallowing all that well. (he is coming home today and she got there yesterday afternoon). Her other idea was to wheel ma into the kitchen after dinner and let her dry the pans. What??????? She cannot hold a pan nevermind dry it. omg, what planet is she from.

I had ordered them some absentee ballots about a month ago. Then I read in the paper last week that for absentee ballots, the person's signature has to match the one they have on file. Okay, my mother has no signature anymore. So they are mailing a new signature card where the person can put any kind of mark. So risis has to get her to make the new sig, mail it in, and help her and daddy fill out the ballot, make the mark, and mail them in. She had better do it. My mother is writing in Hillary Clinton for president.

Risis had also promised to give the aide the old TV that was hanging around way early in the year for her bedroom. Instead, she gave it to lasis for her RV. Since I had never heard any of this, I was appalled that that had happened and also that I had never even thought of her having one. So we put ma in the car, went to BB and I bought her a 22 inch flat screen tv with a dvd player in it and a cord to attach it to cable and now she is in 7th heaven!! Plus I am going to give it to her whenever she leaves them. Her hubby just lost his job as a valet parker. She is an absolute gem and takes super care of my parents. I would do anything for her. We are paying her extra on the side from the agency and will probably increase that amount soon as the problems get worse. I was all clueless about which tv to buy but made a quick decision when confronted with the choices. Then how to hook it up? Is it as easy as buying a cord and connecting the ends? Everyone in the store insisted I needed an hd box, etc but a quick call to oh nixed that. I mean we don't have one and ours works fine. So we connected the cable cord and the plug and I put the batteries in the remote - and - nothing!! hehe, finally figured out that the batteries were in wrong. Then it was on and we went thru the auto set up and everything was perfect.

I did not hear from risis yesterday thank goodness because I was in no mood for it. My friend came to stay with me last night. We were all tired but I was really glad to see her. I will get to spend this afternoon and tonight with her also which I am looking forward to. Her house in Bolivar is no more. Just the pilings are left. And she is dealing with some relatives-in-law here in Houston who are in the same age-related situation (except worse) as my parents. Too bad the pool water is actually COLD or we could laze around this afternoon and swim. Maybe we will spa instead.

Last week instead of going home from rehab in the afternoon and then coming almost straight back in the pouring rain, I went across the street and had a manicure and pedicure. I normally do my own nails as I feel like a right ass paying someone to cut my nails and I never use polish since I am too lazy to keep it up, but I was exhausted and my nails were long a gross. The lady actually did what I asked her for once and cut them very short and I was happy. I almost gave in to clear toenail polish but nixed it at the last minute, thank goodness.

Must go now and start getting ready for my riding lesson. Going to see my baby and I hope he will be glad to see me. Did oh buy carrots for me?? If not, I have an apple.